Karla wrote:
> On 12 Feb 2005 07:25:55 -0800, ilya_shambat2004 DeleteThis @yahoo.com wrote:
>
> >A mindset creates a bubble around a person's mind, where all
thoughts
> >reflect and fall in upon themselves - where every direction is
blocked
> >and leads back to the center - where all that one does, thinks or
> >attempts returns back in upon itself.
>
> I think "mindset" is the wrong word. You describe a rut.
I'm actually speaking about my experiences with people in bad
relationships, bad social and psychological places, and various kinds
of mental and psychic entrapment. Sometimes that is a rut, but in most
cases it is something far more malignant.
> If students today were raised with a particular mindset, they'd have
a better oar to negotiate the
> white river. I opine this from personal experience as I attended a
Catholic school. I, myself, as
> many will tell you, am unremarkable.
Some of your poems are quite good.
> However, this oar helped me to excel in school, university,
> and the workplace.
What oar are you talking about? Belief in self-determination and
self-reliance?
> It didn't help me much with love, dammit, but I'll chat with God
about that later.
Well, I can tell you why, too. The qualities that help you succeed in
the workplace when you are a woman are not the same qualities that most
men find attractive in relationships. The corporate world may see you
as motivated; the man might see you as a b*tch. I have a friend who is
a beautiful, brilliant young woman, and she told me that the girls in
college who were getting dates did so by acting dumb - something that
of course she would not do.
A Russian politician named Gennady Zyuganov said, "A smart woman is OK.
A beautiful woman is OK. But a woman who's both smart and beautiful is
the scariest thing in the world." My girlfriends (at least ones for
whom I wrote poetry) were both smart and beautiful. However they were
not corporate types. They were romantics.
While there is a growing fraternity of men who want a woman who is
professionally successful, I do not know if they are the kind of men
whom you will find attractive. Based on what I've seen, my advice to
you is: Soften the edges in your approach to relationships, while
keeping your essence. You don't have to act like a b*tch to be
yourself.
> I'm in a rut where ever direction is blocked and leads back to me as
the center - so boring!
You in a mirror chamber? That's what I meant by my post.
> >The correct way to extricate a person from a bubble is to combine
the
> >external and the internal - to throw them a life rope, so to speak,
> >while remaining yourself outside -
>
> Did this come to you in a dream?
Well, actually, not quite. Meditation. Based on astrology and
astronomy, of all things.
My imagery concerned breaking something out of a black hole. The image
that came to me was that of putting one edge outside the event horizon,
the other in the black hole, and twist the connecting substance so as
to break the black hole open.
While that may not work with real black holes, it would work with Pluto
manifestations (if you've done any research into the subject). My
advice once again: Put one center of attention outside, the other
inside, and twist until the inside breaks open.
> You espouse elsewhere that you're a Christian - unless, of course,
> that's your persona for posting on these boards.
Why would I do that? It's not considered cool on the Net to be a
Christian. If I were to make up an artificial persona, it would be
something that panders to the net culture, not something that the net
culture opposes.
> Even so, let's keep the persona consistent. Jesus never remained on
the outside when
> extricating us. He stood in our place, sat /with/ the tax collectors
and prostitues, and
> assumed our burdens.
Yeah, but he did something else: He kept his soul, and his mind, in the
God-space, while doing so. What I've discovered was that, when you're
inside a social construct, or inside some individual's or group's mind,
it is hard to retain objectivity: You get sucked into it. What Jesus
did was precisely what I'm advising - keep one center of attention in
God; put another where the others are; and break the wall while guiding
them to where you come from.
> It's gotta be a dream...
> I'm thinking that you're exploring gnosticism - it's tantalizing and
colorful (but heresy). You
> won't find Jesus there - he's still in the crowd washing feet.
Among other things.
Ilya Shambat.<!-- ~MESSAGE_AFTER~ -->
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